BDSM/Polyamory/Alternate Lifestyles

Laura A. Jacobs, psychotherapist, psychotherapy, therapy, LGBTQ, transgender, transsexual, transexual, genderqueer, gender nonconforming, gay, lesbian, BDSM, kink, gender, sexuality, HIV, AIDS, polyamory, poly, counseling, bereavement, grief

BDSM/Kink/Polyamory/Sexwork/Alternate Lifestyles


BDSM, polyamory, sexwork…

Many people are drawn to activities outside traditional boundaries.  Social mores often tell us these are wrong, and many of us have internalized the negative messages we have heard.  We may have been subjected to stigma even from our loved ones. 

As a Kink Aware Practitioner and someone versed in the dynamics of such activities, my approach is not to pathologize a person’s involvement in alternate lifestyles, but to view these activities as an application of creativity to the realm of sexuality, as expressions of love, as relationships and experiences that can bring us joy.  Sometimes it is outside the norm where we can gain the most insight.

Our collaboration will be to help you live your lifestyle with authenticity, safety, and fun exploration.

Bodily delight is a sensory experience... it is a great, infinite learning that is given to us, a knowledge of the world, the fullness and the splendor of all knowledge.
— Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet
 
The only unnatural sex act is that which you cannot physically perform.
— Alfred Kinsey
Inner Strength.  Copyright Laura A. Jacobs, Lawrence A. Jacobs.

Inner Strength.  Copyright Laura A. Jacobs, Lawrence A. Jacobs.

 
The S/M subculture is a theater in which sexual dramas can be acted out and appreciated... S/M eroticism focuses on whatever feelings or actions are forbidden, and searches for a way to obtain pleasure from the forbidden... My sexual semiotics differ from the mainstream. So what? I didn’t join the feminist movement to live inside a Hallmark greeting card.
— Patrick Califia (1981)